Saturday, September 6

Obasanjo offered to support Buhari if he dropped me for Okonjo-Iweala –Tunde Bakare


Pastor Tunde BakareIn this interview with ADEOLA BALOGUN, NONYE BEN-NWANKWO and ERIC DUMO, Pastor Tunde Bakare of the Latter Rain Assembly speaks on a wide range of issues including his experience as a running mate to Gen. Muhammadu Buhari at the 2011 general elections.

We heard you praising God for the Osun State governorship election despite the militarisation; don't you think that the militarisation was responsible for the peaceful election?

I think I chose my words, I didn't use militarisation; I used the word "federal presence." I said in spite of the intimidating federal presence, things still went on peacefully. I have heard the word militarisation used, I do not necessarily subscribe to it. The reason being that the police are called peace officers and they were there to keep the peace. The military has been used lately in several elections because of the major environment, the violence going on and all kinds of electoral malpractices. In other places, elections are like picnic with citizens having the opportunity to exercise their rights. But when you are beginning to hear statements like "blood will flow," "it is going to be fire for fire" and "you will be roasted," you get scared. You begin to wonder if it is a matter of life and death. But that the Osun State election went peacefully, we thank God.

I also said that a time will come when we'll stop suspecting ourselves. There are so many things that we cook up when things don't go our way. We must become mature enough to accept defeat and concede to the winner like Governor Kayode Fayemi did in Ekiti without blood flowing or heads rolling.

Talking about general elections, you were once quoted as saying there might not be elections in 2015, but with what you are seeing now are you still holding on to that statement?

A number of things have taken place since I spoke. I remember it was 2012 that I started saying: take care of 2014 if you want 2015. There are two reasons why I have been saying that we should take care of 2014 and one of them is the conference. The national conference has brought us together to iron out some of our differences. I am not saying the conference is a magic wand that would bring all the solutions to our problems but definitely if there is courage to implement some of the things that we have resolved and are part of that report on the side of the executive and legislature; Nigeria would not be where it used to be. We are not where we ought to be, but we are not where we used to be. We have moved on.

Besides that, part of what makes 2015 a necessity is the 2016 census. Those are two extremely dangerous years. The year you are having general elections followed by census; those things are scary. So, if the foundation is not properly laid in 2014, we are playing with disaster.

Some people saw your participation at the national conference as a signal that you were coming into politics again, is this true?

Maybe you need to dig deeper and find out why I participated. Number one, I didn't select myself; I didn't force myself on the government. I represented the South-West geo-political zone. When the elders met, they put my name down. I pleaded with them that I would not even have the time. But they insisted that they wanted me there and you don't reject your elders if they feel you have something to contribute or they consider that you are relevant.

Two, while I was still battling with who will represent me at the conference, the Ogun State Governor, Senator Ibikunle Amosun, also put forward my name. At that point I decided to give it a chance. But I gave a condition and that condition was that I would not take a penny from the conference; I would not be given any allowance and I wrote a letter to that effect and they replied me. I did this so that if anything went wrong, I would retain my freedom to express myself freely. That does not mean others who took the allowance are bad people. No! We see things from different perspectives. Staying in Abuja is very expensive. I won't tell you how much I spent but I travelled on each occasion with my research team and about three to four staff and we stayed in a suite which is quite expensive.

Have you joined politics again?

I have never joined politics. I am a nation builder, I am not a politician. I sleep well, I wake up well. I have no ambition; there is no desire to be anything in politics. All I want to see is a nation that works. If you ask me today if I am seeking any elective office, my answer will be no. I was asked to be a running mate to Gen. Muhammadu Buhari, I was not looking forward to it at all. But if I am beckoned upon to do something, I will pray about it and if I see that it does not negate what I stand for and believe in, why not? The truth is that if good people don't participate in politics, then we will continue to endure the rule of idiots.

When you were asked to be a running mate, did you ask God about it or did He tell you to go ahead?

Several times Paul would say in the Bible that "this is I speaking but not the spirit of God even though I have the spirit of God in me." With every sense of modesty, a man like me would not jump without looking. If you don't look and you leap, you can leap into disaster that would backfire on you and everything you stand for in the society. When my book is out, it would be clear to all the process it took for me to be a running mate.

I sat in my house, leading a group called Arrow Heads which is already public knowledge after Mallam Nasir El-Rufai wrote about it in his book, 'Accidental Public Servant.' We gathered a group of Nigerians we felt could make a change in our clime. People like Oby Ezekwesili, Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala, Donald Duke, Nasir El-Rufai, Nuhu Ribadu, Fola Adeola, Jimi Lawal, Yinka Odumakin, Jimi Agbaje, Wale Osun and a few others. We said to ourselves that we should form the Arrow Heads to produce a change. And when I was given the privilege of being the chairperson of that group, I told them I would only accept on two conditions. Number one, that I would not join any political party and number two, I would not seek any elective office so that if there is a dispute, I can effectively resolve it. Those around me know that I have no desire for a political office but those who don't know me think I am an opportunist. Gen. Buhari called me on January 15 of that year and said, that he had done his own little prayers and he wanted to ask me to be his running mate. I told him I couldn't because I lead a group and I had given them my word and that my word is my bond. I also told him that I had no desire for a political office; all I wanted to see was a change and be among those who work behind the scene. So, Gen. Buhari asked me to pray about it that he would get back to me. Within six or seven hours, he called back and I told him that I had not consulted my people. The first person I called among others was my wife and daughter and then spoke to Pastor Adeboye twice on it.

Really?

Yes…you see people don't know things that happen behind the scene. I spoke to him twice and he said look, don't be afraid, step in there, whether you win or lose, God is taking you somewhere. I didn't jump because of that. I spoke to my mother and she said she had a dream about it six months before; I still didn't jump. I thought it would be unfair not to tell Bola Tinubu because I had been brokering some things between the then Action Congress and the Congress for Progressive Change before the AC became ACN. So, I called Tinubu in the presence of Jimi Agbaje and Yinka Odumakin. I said to him that Gen. Buhari had called to offer this, give me a Christian from your group so that I can present to him. I invited the former governor of Ekiti State, Niyi Adebayo to my house and told him that he would be a better person to handle this. Both of us were in the Faculty of Law, University of Lagos at the same time. So, I looked for every way not to take Buhari's offer and I didn't fill the form. I took my team and went to the General and asked him why he wanted me to be his running mate. He said three things, "your passion for Nigeria. You have been a Muslim before, you are a Christian now. You have lived in the North, you were born in the South, you understand the geography and I think you can be a positive influence to pull the nation together. Number two, your integrity, number three, supposing I die in office like Yar'Adua, I want someone who would not sell out, who would still continue my vision for this country." Still, I didn't fill the form.

I went to El-Rufai's house, we sat down there and he encouraged me to take it and I said I was not taking it. I told him I needed to clear a particular thing in my heart. Everyone who had been assistant to Gen. Buhari died before him. Tunde Idiagbon is gone, Okadigbo is gone, Ume-Ezeoke is gone, why do I want to go and put my head in a death sentence. I need to know what is responsible for that, so I can't just jump, I will need to pray through. I told Gen. Buhari the same thing I am saying now.

The day before the final submission of names, former President Olusegun Obasanjo told El-Rufai that he was ready to support Buhari if he could drop me and replace me with Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala as his running mate. El-Rufai ran to me, that this was what Obasanjo said. The three of us were in the same hotel but in different suites. We went straight to Gen. Buhari and I said to him that breakthrough had come. I told him I had not filled the form and that there were five reasons why he must take Okonjo-Iweala. Number one, she is Delta-Igbo, you would have solved the problem of South-East/South-South. Number two, she's a woman, you have settled the gender issue. Number three, Christian, balanced ticket. Number four, a former minister of finance and former minister of external affairs, experience which I don't have. Number five, World Bank top executive, international exposure. Even though I have travelled round the world, I have not worked in any organisation, she is a better candidate. This is the form, I have not filled it. General Buhari looked at me and said did Obasanjo speak to you and I said no that he spoke to El-Rufai and I believe him. And he asked El-Rufai to repeat everything Obasanjo said to him and he did. He said to El-Rufai that well, you have worked with him and I have worked with him too, he would have something up his sleeves which we don't know. Buhari turned to me and said, Pastor Bakare, I have waited long enough and today is the last day, if you are not going to fill the form, give it to me, I will look for someone until we can get a person like you. At that point, I became overwhelmed and I signed the form and El-Rufai seconded. That was the process; it was not an overnight thing.

Do you have any regrets accepting that offer?

Not at all. If I have the chance, I will do it again. Buhari is an incorruptible leader. He is a man whose word is his bond. He is a reliable person and he loves this country. I don't flatter people and you know I fought almost all military impostors in this country; there was a time I couldn't stand any of them. But getting close to him, I realised he loves Christians as much as he loves Muslims.

For those who said why Buhari? I remember Adunni Abimbola Adelakun, she wrote why can't Bakare run as President? Why do you have to be a running mate? I just laughed when I read that. Don't forget that Joseph served Pharaoh, Daniel served Nebuchadnezzar, and we are the salt of the earth and the light of the world, so you can maintain contact without contamination. Anything that would contribute to the well being of the people of this country, as much as God gives me the grace, I would do it.

You just spoke glowingly about Buhari, is that why you said if that suicide attempt on his life had succeeded it would have caused commotion in the country?

Whichever way you look at it; Gen. Buhari has succeeded in stepping into the shoes of the likes of the founding fathers of this nation. It is like killing Awo in the West in those days. They jailed him but they dare not kill him. Look at the repercussions of what happened when Saudana was killed. It is like shooting Azikiwe. A time comes when people have such a large followership that you have to be careful about them. Gen. Buhari registered a party and went to contest for election after three months and had 12 million votes. I have seen the people following him running towards a moving plane. He is not loved because he has money to pay them, he doesn't give a dime to anybody. Buhari does not have such money, he does not have a petrol station, and he has no oil well even after being a petroleum minister and former head of state. There was a time he took his children to public schools. Obasanjo investigated him with Haruna Adamu, and didn't find anything against him.

Why didn't you move with him Buhari to the All Progressives Congress?

A strategic man takes his time. I moved the motion for the merger of the parties publicly at Eagles Square. I worked tirelessly for that merger to materialise. But when you perceive that your presence, whether you speak or stay quiet, affects some of the people who think you are ambitious, you leave the stage for them. If you ask me if I am in APC, Buhari knows I am in Daura APC, not Ogun State, Oyo or Lagos State so that those functioning can be free to function without fearing that this man might have an ambition and might still want to be a running mate. I have had my fair share.

In 2012 you were quoted as saying that Jonathan was on a mission to ruin Nigeria, two years later do you still feel the same way?

You do not separate a statement and body of facts that led to that statement. President Jonathan himself is a victim of circumstances. Who groomed him for what he is doing? I think he has had to learn on the job. Whether he is learning fast or is taking his time, is for others to comment. I marched on the streets of Abuja, Lagos, led Save Nigeria Group in different campaigns for him to become Acting President and he subsequently became the President of Nigeria. He is alive, if I have taken a dime from him for anything, he can say. Not that they would not want to be a blessing to me but I don't take. My hands have provided enough for me. I am contented. I have had the privilege of sitting with the President this year about five times and it is always about how to move the nation forward. I remember when the President wanted to see me; I called Gen. Buhari immediately to inform him about the invitation because I don't double-deal. I am a loyal person and I made the President know that I informed Gen. Buhari before coming for that particular meeting. The things he said to me are not for now; they would come out at the appropriate time. I think Jonathan is honestly doing his best but history would judge whether his best is good enough. The Nigerian issue is complex. It requires a level of capability and dynamism and that is not common among the current politicians.

You have always been critical of America's involvement in the politics of other nations especially Nigeria, do you also think that the monstrous painting of Ebola is also part of the conspiracy to further distabilise Nigeria?

I don't think so, Ebola is here and you don't run away from it. The man who smuggled himself into the plane and came to Nigeria probably didn't know the magnitude of the problem he was about to cause.

When America got here over Boko Haram, what I saw on the television is what the Americans call show. You don't ridicule another nation to look good as if you have your acts together. Right on your own soil, in New York, right on your faces with all your technology and the power you claim to have as the police of the world, terrorists humiliated you. The whole nations of the earth rose up to support you and now we are battling with something here and you are making our leaders look useless, and redundant.

Don't you believe in church planting?

Any church that does not believe in church planting is like a woman praying to be barren. I have done church planting the way others have done before. We had about seven other satellite churches that we planted and at a time I said no, this is not the pattern I have seen in the Bible and so we started to follow the pattern which is to train men, raise them, so that when they are strong and receive the call, commission them, support them to plant a church. By so doing, we planted several churches without necessarily calling them Latter Rain Assembly.

You once described Nigerian churches as being a theatre where one man performs and the others are just mere spectators, does this not also apply to you?

It doesn't. If you were here this morning (Sunday, August 10, 2014), I did the least speech. If you quoted me correctly, I said the difference between the cinema and the church in Nigeria is that for the cinema you pay a gate fee before you enter but in the church, they let you come in before they take from you. When the youth pastor was ministering today, I said wow, if I am out of here today, these people can continue.

You are not too prominent in Pentecostal Fellowship of Nigeria and Christian Association of Nigeria, is it by choice or by design?

So, one or two of our pastors attend to matters of PFN, but I don't go there.

What's stopping a big church as yours from establishing its own university like others have done?

I am not called to do that. I do not judge those who are doing it because they are contributing their quota to the system and they are helping the society in the area of infrastructure.

But I would have a question mark on the whole thing if part of what is going in there are the offerings of the people and their pastors' children and members' children cannot attend that university. Almost all the top universities in the world started from Christian organisations. My daughter graduated from Emory University in Georgia, United States, which is owned by the Methodist Church. Oxford and Cambridge were established by churches. If their real intention was mission and to educate a crop of leaders that would share the light. I commend their efforts. But if it is a money-making and profit-driven, then I don't know what to say.

Every year we have big churches stage conventions, but we don't see Latter Rain doing the same, is it that you don't believe in such gatherings where lives are usually saved in multitudes or what?

It is not wrong to have an annual convention, it is not wrong to have Shiloh or Holy Ghost Congress. I have been invited to the congress about three times but I just didn't have the time to go. Up till the seventh year of the Latter Rain Assembly, we had what we called Annual Believers' Convention but I stopped it after then. Look at the population of people in church today and we have negligible righteousness. So, something is wrong. I am not condemning what people are doing. If they are called to do what they are doing, God would reward them. But if it is just a clever ploy to continue to control and manage people, one day they would say "to your tent oh Israel."

What is your take on anointing oil?

People like to create their own Tunde Bakare. I love God, I love people, I love the godly and the ungodly and I try within my God-given ability to teach the truth. The reason I fought with my friend, Bishop David Oyedepo, and tore his book, I remember when we resolved this problem in London, we came out of a plane, he took me aside and said he was angry with me because I tore his book. I said I didn't tear your book, I tore my book. That is fine, you wrote it, I bought it, so it was my book I tore. I saw errors in that book because he said the anointing oil is not a symbol of the Holy Spirit that it is the life of God in a bottle. How can you write that and I would let it pass. No! If the anointing oil is the Holy Spirit, then Jesus is a lamb walking on four legs. These are metaphors and when you have the real, you leave the shadow. Besides it is for the sick in the New Testament. So, you can anoint the entire church if they are sick and I would wonder how a sick church can bring healing to a dying world.

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Thursday, September 4

More To Be Possessed

Now Joshua was old, advanced in years. And the LORD said to him: "You are old, advanced in years, and there remains very much land yet to be possessed. Josh 13:1 NKJV

Human traditions are not divine creation for they are largely built around what has been. One funny part to it is the habit of dwelling in the past and preferring former times to things yet be seen, done, or experienced – Lk. 5.39.

After experiencing the goodness of God for a while there is the tendency to be relaxed and not to be all out as it was at the beginning just as Israel had spent years in military expedition of the land of Canaan and now seemed to be relaxed. But God spoke: it is not time to relax yet. There are more awaiting us than the familiar, and more to be experienced than both the seen and the imagined. There are still very large areas of land to be taken over (NIV); to be conquered (NLT); or to be possessed.

Standing out of these verse are two distinct words: ‘land’ and ‘possess’. The word possess means ‘to have or own’, to take control of, to gain or seize, or by its sense in Latin, ‘to sit on as head’. The word land however stands in the text for an area, territory, or region that belongs to or inhabited by an individual or a people, or which they regard as their home or as possession.

The present territory fits into the current sphere of our experience; ability; provision; degree of influence. Each of these areas of our life does not constitute all that is to be, there is more to be possessed, taken, or conquered, just like God spoke to Joshua.

It is time to get out of the comfort zone. The plan is greater than the experience.

Friday, August 22

10 Things Your Husband Hates

My husband and I spent many years in a miserable state. I'm ashamed to tell you that this list is a result of some of the ways I was guilty. Several, actually. I'd love for you to learn from the mistakes that I made over the years.

He hates when you throw him under the bus in public. When you point out his faults, criticize, or correct him, you make him feel like an idiot in front of others—and that's demeaning. Don't embarrass him in any way (especially in front of your children). Would you want him to do that to you?

He hates when you remind him of his past failures. It's something that was settled long ago (or maybe just last week), and you just can't seem to let it go. We've all failed. Let go of things that have already been worked through and settled. If there are unresolved issues that were never dealt with biblically, don't bring them up as a bully club, but take steps to graciously resolve them and move on!

He hates when you unload on him as soon as he walks in the door. One thing I can't stress to wives enough—HUG your man when he comes in from work! Greet him with a kiss and some love. Give him an encouraging word, and hold off on letting him know what a tough time you've had. He has had a long day. (I know you have as well, but I'm not talking to him. I'm talking to you.) He's been hit with challenges that you haven't faced, and perhaps he fought battles you'll never know about. Be what makes it all worth coming home to.

He hates when you expect him to be just like your girlfriend. He's probably not a crafter, a scrapbooker, or a fan of spending five hours at the mall. An afternoon in the nail salon is probably not his idea of fun. He's not going to communicate with you like your best friend or want to know the complete story you want to tell. Down to the Very. Last. Detail. Appreciate him for being a man, and leave the girl stuff to your girl friends.

He hates when you expect him to read your mind. Just tell him. Don't play those mind games where you're thinking: If he really loved me, he'd know that I want him to . . . (fill in the blank). I wouldn't have to tell him! Your husband will be so grateful if you'll ditch the mind-reading game and just have some honest and gracious communication.

He hates when you treat him like your child. Men know that they don't think like we do. They know that it can be challenging to measure up to our expectations or desires. When they forget to close the lid on the toilet, it's not because they want to irritate us. When they take the long route because they forgot the right exit, it's not because they want to burn that extra gas. When we talk to our husbands in the same tone we would use with our children, it is disrespectful. And that's a sin.


He hates when you unload the big guns at 11 p.m. Don't wait until bedtime to bring up a topic of discussion that has the potential to put the two of you on opposite side of an all out battle until near dawn. If you need to have a conversation that has the potential for major conflict or emotion, do it early in the evening (or maybe save it for a morning when he's home). Respect his need to get some rest.

He hates when you compare him to that "perfect guy" at church. Your husband may not seem as "spiritual," may not treat you the same way you see that "perfect guy" treat his wife, he may not sound as knowledgeable, or seem as interested in the sermon. But your husband probably has some worthy qualities that you may be missing because you're so focused on what he's "not." Quit comparing him to other men—what good can come from you doing that? Why not ask God to open your eyes to see things that you've not yet appreciated about him?

He hates when you give him the silent treatment. Whenever you use the silent treatment to manipulate him, it harms both of you. The silent treatment is a hostile punishment tool. Don't make things more difficult by clamming up or stuffing your anger. If you're hurt or angry, first go to God and ask Him to search your heart to see if the anger is righteous or if there is some offense that needs to be discussed. Talk it out with your husband. Be honest and humble in your communication and remember—he's not your enemy!

He hates when you use sex as a weapon. The gift of sexual intimacy is to be an expression of unselfish love. It's a physical demonstration of spiritual unity. Don't withhold yourself to punish your husband, and don't use your intimacy as a bribing technique. Honor your marriage bed as sacred, and love your husband well.

Have I sounded harsh today? I hope not, I just know how easy it is to slip into a disrespectful attitude that morphs into ugly treatment of those we love most. I'm challenging all of us today to set aside any of these things that are a common, but destructive, tendency in marriage. And they are not God-glorifying.

Do you see yourself anywhere in this list? If you do, I hope you'll spend some time seeking God. Ask Him to show you specific things you need to ask your husband to forgive you for, and share that with him.

Taken from Kimberly Wagner's blog post 10 Things Your Husband Hates. www.TrueWoman.com. Used with permission.


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Wednesday, August 20

The Supremacy of the Word

The ministry of the word is the paramount ministry in the church, This is because everything that God will do on earth depends on the operation of His word. The creation was accomplished with the word spoken and according to the unknown writer of the Epistles to the Hebrews, God continues to sustain the world by His word, the omnipotent word.

God esteemed the word so much that he uses it to affirm His integrity. He has exalted it above his name. This points to the fact that God will not say a word exempt He means it. He will not utter a word unless he is willing to see it to its logical conclusion. Every word spoken by God shall not return to him void. It continues to work until it has accomplished the intended purpose.

This is why every time we minister the word, it should be with all carefulness. Paul preached the word with fear and trembling at Corinth so that only God will be seen through whatever he said and so that only the intentions of God shall be established through whatever he disseminated.

When next you speak or preach the word let it be not with your clout behind it. While that has its place, it must much more be with the person of God and His grace behind it. When you are a King's emissary, His throne is behind the message unless your delivery is otherwise. God must be represented every time we speak.

If we represent Him in and with our delivery, expressing and interpreting only His thoughts and intentions; it must then be done with exactness - without falling for sensational speculations that goes beyond what the Lord says to fly what the man thinks or likes. It must also be done with the grace that God supplies so that the message shall be a divine oracle and not human manipulations; it must be dome with faith in Him who sent us that there shall be a performance of what He has spoken through us.

Our efforts in the ministry of the word must be with honour for the word and with faith which rests on God's grace and ability for the word to be confirmed in the lives of those that God sends us to.

Thursday, August 7

Don’t Marry Unless You Can Find This Kind of Bride or Groom


On their wedding day, the poet placed these words of invitation on the groom's lips for his beloved:

Come, grow old with me! The best is yet to be,
The last of life,
For which the first was made.

What bride wouldn't say yes to such a promise!

The groom

The first nine verses  of Psalm 45 focus on the royal bridegroom. When husbands emulate his qualities, strong marriages result.

1. Character which invites praise (v. 2). Most marital problems would be avoided if the wife could say to her husband, "You are the most excellent of men." It's the man's responsibility to conduct himself in such a way that his wife can honestly praise him.
The telltale sign of such sterling character is how the husband talks to his wife: "Your lips have been anointed with grace." Many marriages languish because the husband rarely, if ever, expresses love, appreciation, or compliments.

2. Handsome bearing (v. 3). The groom looks great in his full military uniform. What bride wouldn't be impressed? Why not keep it that way throughout marriage? Stay in shape and look the best you can. "Clothe yourself with splendor and majesty."

3. Noble ideals (v. 4). Let the husband be a Don Quixote. "In your majesty ride forth" in quest of truth, humility, and righteousness. What great goals! His purpose in marriage goes beyond self-pleasure—he sees his life mission in larger terms and his marriage as part of God's plan for the fulfillment of divine aims.

4. Inner strength (v. 5). This young man intends to be successful. His "sharp arrows pierce the hearts of the king's enemies." He will be victor and not victim. A bride does well to marry a man who has wholesome self-confidence in addition to his faith in the Lord.

5. Submission to God (vv. 6,7). Blessed is the bride whose husband knows the Lord. In these verses, the Psalmist leaps beyond the human groom to a prophetic description of the Church's bride- groom, Jesus. (See Hebrews 1:8,9.) The earthly husband aligns his character to the Lord's, possessing a love for righteousness, a hatred of wickedness, and a life of joy.

6. Love for beauty (vv. 8,9). Here is a man who smells good, possesses a keen sense of aesthetics ("palaces adorned with ivory"), and loves music. He treats well his sisters, but his wife is honored over them—she is pure gold.

The bride

How shall the bride respond to such a stunning bridegroom? The balance of Psalm 45 provides the answer.

1. Break with the past (v. 10). She is to "forget" her people and her father's house. Marriage does involve transfer of loyalty and affection. By loosening the strings to parents, a bride and groom both enhance success in their marriage.

2. Genuine respect (v. 11). One can marry from false motives—money, power, security. In Psalm 45 the groom is enthralled by his bride. She responds by honoring him. When a couple truly love each other, they do everything possible to make honor and servanthood a two-way street.

3. Pride in belonging (v. 12). A bride not only marries the groom, but all he represents. In Psalm 45 the bride wed someone whose relationships contribute positively to the marriage. She is proud to belong to him. Troubled marriages are the opposite: partners feel they would be better off alone or with someone else.

4. A delightful appearance (vv. 13–15). There is wonderful charm in how this bride looks in her "embroidered garments" and "gown interwoven with gold." Not all can dress lavishly, but all can enter their husbands' presence with "joy and gladness." Sexual love in marriage should be marked by the bride and groom making themselves beautiful for one another.

5. From wife to mother (vv. 16,17). Most marriages produce children. Smart is the bride who picks not only a good husband, but a good father; likewise the groom chooses not only the woman he loves, but also a great mother to his children.

Don't get married unless you can find a Psalm 45 bride or groom. And, if you are married, take inventory—do these qualities for bride and groom describe how you relate to your spouse?

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